Entries by Gerry Dye

Rescuing Trust (part 1)

LIFE Marriage Retreats will soon be releasing an online course dedicated to helping couples suffering from eroding or broken trust to rebuild relationship trust to the very highest levels. In anticipation of that release, we will focus on some crucial elements of trust in this blog in the coming weeks. Trust Is a Matter of […]

Three Gifts to Give this Holiday Season

1. Give yourself the gift of forgiveness Simply put, to forgive is to let go of the negativity caused to you by another person. It does not “let them off the hook” or give them a free pass to continue the negative behavior. However, it does relieve your burden of pain, anger, and resentment. What […]

10 Things to Say to Your Husband When Marriage Feels Hard

Can you help me understand? Asking for more understanding in a gentle way is much better than assuming he’s feeling a certain way or acting out because of something you did. Be genuine when you ask—make sure you’re asking because you truly want to know and not just because you know you should ask. Hopefully […]

Five Habits of Couples in Strong Relationships

With a seemingly high divorce rate in our world today, and friends or family whose marriages may be falling apart, it might be hard to believe that there are relationships out there that are good, strong, and healthy. Happy relationships and marriages do exist, but not without the hard work that’s put into them. By […]

How to Keep Resentment From Ruining Your Relationship (Part 2)

Be Empathetic Even though resentment is a human emotion, that doesn’t make it a healthy one. Never berate yourself for feeling a flash of resentment, but recognize it as a signal that there is some work to be done. That might include finding forgiveness for your partner, even when you think they might not deserve […]

How to Keep Resentment from Ruining Your Relationship (Part 1)

What does it mean to resent someone? Here are some synonyms of resent to give you a better understanding: feel bitter about, be annoyed at, take offense at, harbor a grudge about. It’s probably not hard to think of the last time you felt resentful about something.  You’re not a bad person for feeling resentful […]

Is Forgiveness Synonymous With Trust?

Is Forgiveness Synonymous with Trust? When someone you love or care about has deeply hurt you, it can be a complicated process restoring everything you once had back to what it used to be. Contrary to what many people think, complete reconciliation doesn’t come with these three words: I forgive you. Forgiveness is but a […]

How to Set Healthy Boundaries in Marriage (Part 2)

3. Use “If…Then” Statements to Create Them  So what does a boundary look like and how do you create one? Here’s an example: If my spouse starts to lose his temper and begins to lash out, then I will, verbalizing a time-out, leave his presence and choose not to engage until he cools down. If […]