Entries by Gerry Dye

Dealing with Pornography in Marriage (Part 1)

The Ultimate Question: What Do You Do?  (For purposes of this article on pornography in marriage the assumption is that it is the husband struggling with the addiction, but pornography addiction is growing rapidly among women as well.)  When you discover your spouse has been involved with pornography it can be traumatic, to say the […]

How to Keep Resentment from Ruining Your Relationship

How to Keep Resentment from Ruining Your Relationship  What does it mean to resent someone? Here are some synonyms of resent to give you a better understanding: feel bitter about, be annoyed at, take offense at, harbor a grudge about. It’s probably not hard to think of the last time you felt resentful about something. […]

Is Forgiveness Synonymous with Trust?

When someone you love or care about has deeply hurt you, it can be a complicated process restoring everything you once had back to what it used to be. Contrary to what many people think, complete reconciliation doesn’t come with these three words: I forgive you. Forgiveness is but a step in the process of […]

Marriage Communication Problems and Solutions

Having marriage communication problems? Take the following quiz to help pinpoint a possible communication weak point. Your perceptions of what is true and what is false will indeed take you in very different directions:  1. I believe that criticism can be a very positive behavior in resolving marital conflict. True___  False___ 2. I respond very […]

Marriage New Year’s Resolution

You probably will not be surprised to learn that the average personal or marriage New Year’s Resolution has a life expectancy of about one week. Most people tend to smile knowingly and a little sadly at such a fact, believing that failed efforts to improve our lives and relationships are simply an unsolvable part of […]

Balanced Relationships

A key element of any LIFE Marriage Retreat is helping couples to build a balanced relationship. Recently at a private marriage Retreat the couple found what they considered the perfect symbol for their future relationship. Along the San Diego beach Retreat location we sometimes see awesome columns of intricately balanced rocks that seem to defy […]

Strengthen Your Marriage with a Healthy Marriage Perspective

A healthy marriage perspective is important in maintaining a happy relationship.  Recently, I heard a man use the all too common phrase “the old ball n’ chain” in reference to his wife.  Oh, how damaging this phrase can be. While at times, this phrase may seem to accurately describe the feeling of being tied down, held […]